It's only been 5 days since we found out that we will become a family of four in a few months from now. As you can imagine, the emotions are many and varied. I guess the first thing we thought about was "how did this happen!!!??!!" Besides the obvious answer :) we discovered that my grandfather's brother had a twin who died in early childhood. There are also some twins in Dan's family in far away generations. Our doctor told us that fraternal twins are more genetically linked than identical. So, maybe we do have some recessive trait somewhere that decided to show up for us. Special, huh?
Regardless of how it happened, they are here to stay! Some days I feel like its the scariest thing that I could ever imagine. Other days it seems so exciting I wonder if its too good to be true.
We thought through some pros and cons of this situation:
CON
1. The pregnancy process is pretty rough on me and it stinks to have to feel sick all day. My hormones are triple that of a normal pregnancy= barfy all day long...
2. I am going to be so huge at the end of the pregnancy that I will be wearing tablecloths with rope belts because thats all that will fit.
3. They will likely arrive early because I will "run out of womb" ha!
4.When they arrive we will need double everything. For example, diapers will be a hot commodity around our house. We estimate needing 800 diapers per month for the first few months. And two college tuitions. And two.....
PRO
1. We thought maybe having 3-4 kids would be ideal. This pregnancy could knock out at least 50% of that goal at one time
2. Twins are kinda cool, and people love twins.
3. Carrying two babies at one will surely get my arm muscles in tip top shape.
4. They do everything on the same schedule...which is easier than 3 kids on 3 schedules. Maybe we'll only have 3 kids on 2 schedules.
5. Dressing twins alike is fun.
6. Twins have a special relationship that the rest of us singleton's don't have.
7. Mother's of twins say that they become professional time managers and seriously organized.
8. Dan reminds me that we're 2 tenths of the way to a basketball team.
9. Other mothers of twins say that its so special to see them so bonding, for example most twins like to hold hands while they are being nursed!!! so sweet!!!!
10. MORE BABIES FOR US ALL TO LOVE
OK so there we go. That proves the point. 10 pros to 4 cons. It's clearly a good thing. :)
4 comments:
Congrats!
Can't wait to see all of you in a few weeks!
I think it's a great thing! I am beyond thrilled, and can't wait to see you both again! This feels so surreal..i never would have thought about twins... there's something amazing going on here.
my SIL has twins and she has handled it just fine. It is harder when they are really little because you only have to hands, but they have a built in best friend that can entertain them and make them feel secure when you can't.
If you are worried about the diaper situation and how costly that would be I would look into cloth diapering. There have been major advancements in the past few years. It is soooo much cheaper and way easier than it seems.
I would also get ahold of a good lactation consultant in the begining so you can tandem breast feed. it will be best for them since they'll need the extra immunity b/c of likely being preemie and it is FREE.
I am so excited for you. please let me know if you need anything or have any questions. materal and fetal medicine was my favorite subject in school. please use me as a resource if you need one. :)
oh my gosh i love you. seriously peeing my pants over here.
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